The aim is to divide finances in a way that roommates would. Keep things fair, try to split shared bills in half to avoid one party feeling taken advantage of. Don’t expect any personal financial responsibilities to be shared. Consider writing up some kind of agreement or list that explicitly states who has which responsibilities.
Be open and clear to avoid anyone feeling angry or hurt. Share chores like you would with any other roommate. Take responsibility for your share of the chores, cleaning up after yourself.
Sleep in different rooms if possible. Try to give one another space, spending time in a bedroom or spare room. Make separate space in the kitchen and become responsible for your own groceries. Discuss if both of you are comfortable with bringing guests over and at what times that is acceptable.
Don’t fall back into any romantic aspects of the relationship. Make the break up clear to avoid making it more difficult and complicated.
If one of you is uncomfortable with the idea, honor that and do not see or bring other romantic interests home. This can cause even more stress and pain, making the break up worse. If both parties are open to this idea, discuss any further rules or boundaries that should be put in place.
Try to stay as objective as you can while you work to decide who will leave. If you are able, consider volunteering to be the one who moves to make the choice easier. Sometimes issues may prevent someone from leaving the house or apartment. These issues are usually financial in nature. If this is the case, plan as best you can and work with the other person to make the living situation as comfortable as possible.
Decide together which time-frames work best for both of you. Finalize a date that the move-out must happen either on or by. Stick to this date and work to make it happen.
If you are the one moving out you will have to look for a new place to live, locate any roommates if needed, and start planning the packing and moving of your personal items. If your partner is moving-out, make sure that you are able to afford your current place of residence alone or start looking for roommates if you cannot.
Being around loved ones can keep feelings of loneliness away and build up your sense of self-worth. Try making new friends by joining a volunteer group, going to the gym, or looking for groups on-line that share some hobby or interest that you have.
You may also want to stay at a friend or family members house for a time.
If you need to talk or need help from friends and family, ask them. Openly share your feelings and thoughts with those you trust. Stay fair, open, and honest with the person you are breaking up while you are still living together.
